Measuring up to Dad

Many of us men try to measure up to our own fathers, whether it's trying to be as successful or better in business, sports or even being a "better father" than they may have been to us. At 48 years of age, I'm also trying to measure up to my Dad as well, only it's in terms of his health versus mine.

My father has been living with cancer on and off for the last five years. First he had cancer of a kidney, which was removed, later his prostrate, which was also removed. At the moment, he is free of the disease, and I pray everyday that it never returns. I have breakfast with my Dad at least once a month. We catch up with each other, but inevitably he asks: "So, how's your health?"

My father may not realize it, but he is still teaching me; and I'm taking notes, trying to be better at taking care of my body than my Dad has done with his. He shares of the pain and humiliation; the frequent doctor's appointments, and, yes, even his fears. Yes, I am still trying to measure up to my Dad. . . So how's your health?